I was talking to my friend on the phone tonight, ya know, while I’m losing it on my kid about Kindergarten math homework. Anyway, we were just talking about what’s new, how was your day, etc. Within our conversation I started thinking about how I went part-time so I could be a better mom, spend more quality time with my kids, and so on. I’m doing that and it’s great! However, I just added on another work day and started tutoring in the evenings so I’m still kinda working a lot. Not nearly as much, but still. So my goal in quitting my career and going part-time was to start feeling like I’m winning! Winning at being a mom, being a wife, winning at being a good daughter and friend, just all around not-sucking. As it turns out, I’m still not getting the mom of the year award.
So I have a new goal. Instead of winning at life, I’m just going to start winning week-by-week. Went to church Sunday, took my kids to the park, did laundry (still clean on the couch), finished meal prep for lunches…. winning! That was Sunday. Then Monday came. I woke up late and I was tired because I was up late binge watching #Nashville. My 6 year old didn’t want to wake up and once she did it took her TWENTY MINUTES to put on her clothes for school #ADHD. So it’s Monday, I yelled at my kid before school, I was 10 minutes late for work, BUT… my kids ate a healthy dinner courtesy of Kroger rotisserie chicken, microwavable steamed veggies and rice. Boom!
Point is, “winning” the week was shot by Monday at 9am. So now my goal is just to feel like I’m winning each day. And if that doesn’t work I’m gonna win moment to moment. Because ya know what? Moments count. And if we think it’s all crap just because we had a few not-so-proud moments, we’re robbing ourselves of the joy in our proud moments! Be proud of yourself today. Dwell on the things you did for your family today. Linger on the positive things that happened in your day. And let all that other crap go. You can always try again tomorrow. Well, actually you have to try again tomorrow; your kids aren’t going to feed themselves. So see, you’ll be winning by breakfast! 😉