Mamas with Mimosas

Permission to Say No

We live by this idea that we can do it all. And I hate to be the one to break it to you, but no, you can’t. And more importantly, you shouldn’t! It is not God’s desire for you to be invincible or feel like you have to take on everything. Ephesians 5:17 says, “So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” I’ve been thinking about this a lot since my pastor included this scripture in his sermon last Sunday. We’re always praying for “God’s will,” but in so many ways, hasn’t He already told us what His will is for us? Here’s what I mean…

  • Ecclesiastes 5:19 says, “Furthermore, for every person to whom God has given wealth, riches, and the ability to enjoy them, to accept this allotment, and to rejoice in your work this is a gift from God.”
  • James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
  • Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and He will make your paths straight.”
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:18 reminds us to “give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

So I don’t mean to turn this into a bible study, but let me be clear. God is my rock. He is the reason I can do all of the things I do in a day. When I am good, it is because He was and is SO good to me. So here’s the BIG IDEA… no where in God’s wonderful bible does He say, “oh daughter of mine, do it all! Watch everyone sit around while you my tired daughter, do it all.” No! Girl, you need to breathe! You need to take care of yourself too! You need to go to happy hour with your friends, walk around Target aimlessly just to have some alone time (Ecc. 5:19). Delegate to your spouse and don’t feel bad about it! He is their father, not their babysitter. He can take care of them for a while so you can refuel. Please, he can brush their teeth and comb their hair while you have a QUIET cup of coffee… ALONE… while it’s still HOT! (pause… mind blown I know). You’ll be a better mom if you can allow yourself to do things like this. You’ll be more “in the mood” with your husband if you do these things because of his support. It’s that whole “put your mask on first” airplane analogy that we’ve struggled with forever. And I’m still struggling with this. I struggle through it every day. So help me out Mamas! What do you do to shake your mom-guilt? What do you do to take care of yourself? Leave us a comment below and let us know!

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