If I get a chance to watch something I want to watch on TV, I am so content! But here’s the thing, I don’t care what I’m watching, I’m just glad it’s not Disney or Nick Jr. So I put on HGTV and that’s my go-to for a while. What happens? I am a DIY ADDICT spending money I don’t have redecorating, doing home improvements, etc. We keep inviting countless ideas and habits into our lives and we don’t even realize it’s happening! Or how about this one… I started binge watching this show on Hulu after the girls went to bed. What happens? I start embodying the main character. Really! Without even realizing it at first. The thing is, “you are who you hang out with” is not just a rule of thumb for teenagers. We all need to remember that little saying. It’s true!
Going to church may not determine if you are a Christian, but if you go to church and surround yourself with fellow Christians it’s a whole lot easier to walk the Christian life. If your friends are Peggy Pessimist and Negative Nancy, girlfriend you’re probably not spreading joy! They’re probably pulling you down. If you’re in a leadership position at work but you spend most of your time being influenced by complainers, you’re not growing. Instead, surround yourself with greatness and you will be more likely to advance in your career! So check yourself on what you allow to influence you. Make conscious decisions about what you let in. And on the flip side, would you be your friend? When you call your friends do you always call to vent or are you calling to hear how THEY are doing? Are you enthusiastic? Do you walk around with an RBF or a smile? I mean, make decisions ladies! If you inspire me, I want to work with you. I want to be around you. If you’re not, why aren’t you? Is your honest life somehow not worthy of inspiring someone else?
If you’re not proud of you, fix it! Hang out with positive people. Follow people and organizations on Facebook and Twitter that engage you in meaningful ways. Don’t watch Carnival Eats and Cake Boss if you’re trying to lose weight. Surround yourself with who and what you want to be! …and let me know how it goes!
Bravo! This is a topic I think every woman should read. Of course we aren’t perfect and we shouldn’t try to be. But keeping in mind the phrase, “would you want to be your friend” is definitely all women….people!….should keep in mind! I’ll admit I am quick to be negative rather than see the positive, but after reading this, I want to try my best to be more positive!
So true Erin! In teaching especially it is easy to just complain and complain. I definitely agree that you need those positive, uplifting people around you. I think my coping mechanism tends to be humor, both for my own sanity and to help others.
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One day at a time. It’s very easy to get together as women and complain about husbands, kids, work, family ect. Maybe we could invoke the positive stick rule? Each person says something positive about themselves and one thing they love about each person in the group! Fun ice breaker and way to encourage a happy positive time together.
Wonderful read…. Thank you for sharing your insight. It’s like you knew exactly what I needed to hear. Continue inspiring others to be there best.